As you might’ve noticed by the plethora of cheese-tastic Valentines ideas on pinterest, the “hey-girlify-your-man” memes all over the blog world and the abundance of stuffed-teddy-bears-holding-hearts available your local CVS, it’s Valentines week!
And by the way? All the posts linked up to last week’s “Hey Girl” party have had me in a constant state of cheeks-hurting-from-too-much-laughter. It is SO worth browsing those links. There are some crazy, hilarious people on this here internets. And if you haven’t linked up yet? Get to it! You have til Wednesday, and I’ll share my faves on Thursday.
I thought it’d be fun to take this week to celebrate our significant others, those who put up with our constant redecorating, abundance of throw pillows and fabric obsessions. Today I’ve polled some of my favorite bloggers to get their TOP tips on how to compromise when it comes to decorating: how to have a beautiful house AND a happy marriage. At the same time.
First up, Sarah from Thrifty Decor Chick!
My husband always jokes that every time he goes away on a business trip, he knows he’ll come home to something in the house looking completely different. We’ve been together so long and he’s so used to my constant projects, he doesn’t even blink anymore. (Sometimes he doesn’t even notice!)
Luckily he loves my style and even when he’s leery at first he always comes around when he sees the finished product. I always talk to him before I start a big project or make a big change in the decor, and when he’s adamant about something I pull back and follow his wishes. It’s so rare that he has a strong opinion on our decor so I’m happy to make changes according to his taste. Decorating is my passion, but this is his home too. I never want him to feel like his opinions don’t matter to me. That’s why we still have the ugly (but oh-so-comfortable) recliner in the basement.
-Sarah at Thrifty Decor Chick
My advice for creating a beautiful home while still keeping your husband happy: marry a guy who has adopted the “happy wife, happy life” school of thought and then sprint maniacally from the altar wielding fistfuls of paint swatches and fabric samples, never to be questioned by your compliant spouse as you make decision after decorating decision.
Or, if life on the edge doesn’t suit you, just be nice to the poor guy, and remember that really, the “chair that will change your world” but also manages to be the object of his loathing will not, in fact, change your world. There will be another chair that you can both agree on.
And finally, it’s just a house. The guy who makes it a home deserves at least one square foot of opinion. Unless he wants to mount some taxidermy relic in that one square foot. If this happens, his one square foot is rescinded. -Erin at His & Hers Blog
When we moved into our current house a little over a year ago, we had to immediately find a place for our TV to live, naturally. Our living room is laid out in such a way that the only place it would work would be above the fireplace. Coming from a house that had no fireplace, I was ecstatic to have one, and had dreamed of painting the brick white, and placing a beautifully framed mirror above the mantle. However, since that was the only place our TV would work, I readjusted my plan to make the big black rectangle not stand out so much and painted the brick in one of my favorite colors…. a charcoal gray, “zinc” by Martha Stewart. Now the TV doesn’t jump out at us so much. He gets his TV, but it’s camouflaged a bit and we both win.
-Cassie at Primitive & Proper
I have pretty much carte blanche when it comes to decorating around our place. But early on my husband gave me one rule and one rule only. No florals. Period. It wasn’t “no girly colors” or “frilly fabrics” or “feminine things”. It was just a floral print he didn’t want on the sheets or the curtains or pillows or anything.
Tip #2: Get him to think that it was his idea. -Karah at The Space Between
I love soft, feminine colors. When my husband and I were first married about ten years ago, I couldn’t get enough “Shabby Chic” decor. It got to be overkill (Our living room looked like Rachel Ashwell came from Target and puked vintage floral everywhere.) and then one day it occurred to me that my husband was surrounded by cabbage roses and ruffles at every turn. It just wasn’t fair. Even though he never complained about it, I made a little rule for myself:
I keep the decor in the main living areas of our home more gender-neutral, but I free myself to decorate the bedrooms as girly as I want.
It is called a “boudoir,” right?
My dream is that someday he will have his own space (which I will get to decorate super manly for him) that he can enjoy for himself. Until then I’m just trying not to let all of the estrogen take him down like kryptonite. -Jenny at Birds and Soap
My tip would be to marry a man who lets you go hogwild in the decorating department! My husband has allowed me to do just about whatever I want with our house, and has also witnessed me ruin stuff about 400 times. But, because he allows me to stretch my creative muscle, I continue to learn and improve and ultimately we both win with a stylin’ space!
My other big tip would be to make sure that comfort is always taken into consideration. As long as my husband feels like he can truly ‘live’ in our house, he’s happy. So, create a home that allows for cozy cuddling, and your husband might turn a blind-eye to the fact that he’s cuddling with a ruffled pillow behind his head! -Virginia at Live Love DIY
Um, wow. There’s some wisdom for ya.
In my mind, it all goes back to what we talked about in this post: how “homemaking” isn’t really about the home or the fabrics: it’s about the people in it. It’s about creating a space between four walls where shoes come off, hair is let down and peace settles in.
What are your best tips to creating a beautiful home that satisfies everyone you share it with?
P.S.: Don’t forget to check out last month’s edition of “The Pros Weigh in,” where I shared the top organizing tips from home bloggers!